If you look it up online at Urban Dictionary.com it is defined as such:
one of the millions of clueless people walking (or driving) and texting, etc., and NOT looking or paying attention to where they’re going or where they are!
And now, I think we can use that term when we see everyone sitting together all on their devices, with their heads down, and absorbed in their screens, rather than paying attention to each other. This term "head downer" came to my attention when we were visiting my in-laws in Florida a few weeks ago, as we were noticing our family was guilty of it. 4 out of the 6 of us were sitting in the living room on our devices. Hmmmmm...I didn't find that too thrilling!
The funny thing is, is that when I became more conscious of how much we really did have our heads down, I realized that we also had our heads down for other things, like cross-word puzzles, collecting shells and split seed pods, drawing, reading etc. But those activities, even though they were "head down", seemed a little bit easier to digest.
I don't think 'head down" is a bad thing. But I do think it is something to be aware of... and to be a little bit more deliberate as to when we use our devices, and when we don't. For me, it's about balance. It's about having time in the day for all of it! Time to be on your ipad, time to read or draw, and time to lift your head, and enjoy being with others. The power these hand held devices is uncanny. Therefore, in order to maintain the balance that I want for my family, I need to limit the use of them to feel better.
The reason I bring attention to this situation is because I believe you can not change or better your quality of living until you become aware and recognize that what is occuring naturally may not be the best scenario. Once you become aware, you can evaulate. Once you evaluate, you can change your behavior to work toward a more desired outcome. That's what I did. I recognized that there was something occuring on a regular basis with my girls that was unsettling. So, I made a deliberate decision to change that.
Now I ask you to take a moment, and ask yourself, are you happy with the environment, activities, and choices you are providing the children in your life? Is it up to your standards? Are your dreams and desires coming true for you and your relationship with your child? If so, that's wonderful! If not, maybe it's time to alter your play spaces & experiences for your children. And if that's the case, you know I am here for you!
Here's to a little more "heads up!"